Do you envy your children? How taboo emotions can reveal the skeletons in the closet, including unresolved trauma.

We have all spoiled or indulged our children at one time or another. Perhaps we have given them bribes or too many sweets to get them to cooperate and behave.  At the time we justify the bribe because we don’t have the patience or energy to enforce a disciplinary action--- which may mean tears and resistance. Sometimes the indulgences just become a habit.  But eventually it backfires when we realize our children expect to be placated and catered to inappropriately and then feel resentful and ambivalent about our role in creating “spoiled brats.”  

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